Gay kids are not a punishment



I am sure at some point in our social media usage we have all come across at least one post of a person wishing a vigilant anti-gay (I hate term homophobia, it’s not a medical condition it’s just pure hatred) to have the “queerest child” as a kind of punishment of their dehumanizing beliefs about LGBTQI+ folks. Not only that, but more often than not these posts tend to go viral with thousands of people sharing the same “That’ll show them!” mentality. A lot of people, especially in the month of June, like to do their gay activism with a more “we’re here and we’re queer”-in-your-face approach. Of course there is nothing wrong with such, but this is one of the cases where it’s absolutely terrifying to hear many people think in such a particular way.

Society has become more accepting of our community nevertheless, we still face discrimination on our job applications, we’re very susceptible to unwarranted attacks, going to the doctor is still disheartening, and the daily micro-aggressions can really make you want to cancel your day to hide somewhere enclosed. Queer kids are not a punishment! They need a family who’ll provide a safe home for them to explore their identities and recharge from the outside in peace. They are just kids, they haven’t learned of ways to deal with the stigmas in healthy way yet. They need nurturing and support, not self-suppression to avoid hearing hate speech from their loved ones.   

The most important thing that makes this widely shared belief much more frightening is human trafficking. One of the sources of this worldwide epidemic is familial rejection, especially of LGBTQI+ children. These children are on the streets if they aren't lucky enough to find a couch, the only form of identification they have is a school ID, and when their own families have shown them hatred so all it takes is a nicely dressed person who offers them a meal and a ride in their nice car for them to become a victim of a world that is constantly pushed underground. It is a very simple yet effective formula that sucks unsuspecting victims in. Parents don’t expect that to happen to their children when expelled in a fit of disgusted rage and yet it does. This is one of the ugly realities for the youngest and most vulnerable in our community, why would we wish for them to potentially go through something beyond traumatic just to teach some fool a lesson? They deserve a warm loving environment that’ll embolden and strengthen them to take on this cruel world unapologetically.


I guess one can loosely see the intentions of why people would say such, but all in all it doesn't make sense. Our very existences go against the white cisgenger heterosexual patriarchy that this society has been founded on. We aren't a punishment or a product of karma, we are people intended to be here and for a purpose.